Conjured Feelings

Was talking to a friend on msn the other day, probably weeks ago by now. She was acting weird and the way she type was rather deflective and so I decided to probe the situation.

Asked about her bf and all but she was not answering the questions.

Finally, the conversation brought us to a halt when she said, "he's a nice guy and he's a great bf...".

What does that mean? He has done nothing wrong, he has been nothing but great. The crucial point would be that you feel lesser for him. He hasn't done any mistakes, at least insufficient for you to leave him. What becomes of the relationship? Drag it on further? Or force it to end?
He has been a sweet heart but you feel the certain annoyance as he tries harder to pamper you because the way you look at him has changed. He hopes to fix the problem. Would it help?

The girl doesn't neccesary has to have feelings for someone else. She probably just meet more people in life, done more things in life and experienced a whole lot more. All these would change how a person react and behave. Perhaps what the guy has is no longer a vital need for the girl...

But...

In general, I believe a relationship that heads this direction... The guy is often the one being left behind... He's stagnant in life while the girl has moved along. I would agree that guys cheat... They show higher percentage of infidelity but when they do love.... They would pour their soul into it, often making them grow slower in terms of life; not size. :D
Girls fall in love with a guy for who he is and what he is. As time pass, the girl would often hope for or wants the guy to adapt and change... Etc etc... 15 years down the road, the wife says... "How come you're not the same man I fell in love with 10 years ago?"

How do we answer?


We would end up wondering, what's the thing in life we want.

Another very dear friend told me. Being with a person and calling the other person sweet names doesn't make you in a relationship. A relationship is where you guys can't get enough of each other. Wanting to see each other all the time. Wherever new place you go, nice things you see, great food you taste... All of which you want to share with the person. When you go shopping or grocery packing, when you buy milk... You don't only think of buying milk; you think of what brand she might prefer... Low fat? Hl? Magnolia?
A relationship is where the two shares everything in life... And continue to share...